The inequities of no-fault divorce
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Robert T. Molleur
Published: July 22, 2008
Another routine edict has been cast at the court house. It’s that proverbial act known as no-fault divorce, where equal parenting time gets less scrutiny than applying for a Virginia fishing license.
As a result, another dad’s parenting role is diminished and is now known as visitation. As a visiting dad the court decreed every-other-weekend and one weeknight for three hours — roughly 15 percent of
every month to visit his child. Mom of course is given sole custody, 85 percent of her time with the child, primarily to increase the amount of child support — stipend often used for Brazilian bikini waxes
and hair highlights.
The parenting role of dad, the 401K balance he solely amassed and the sweat equity to secure a fine home are mere lapses to the judges that use every Thursday morning to rubber stamp divorce
decrees that favor narcissist mothers over undervalued fathers.
The feminists and mama boys that built the current family court system believe that fathers are mere deadbeats, except when delivering sperm on time. In contrast, mothers are victims because they have
menstrual cramps and yeast infections.
Fatherhood is minimized to the role of check writer with visitation rights because it elevates the stature of mothers and the financial benefits they attain through divorce.
The fact that an otherwise prudent father worked hard to provide for his family is moot except for the fact it provides the stimulus for some unscrupulous women to seek an unwarranted divorce. It’s all
about greed and naïve women being coaxed by lawyer’s that consider a father’s 401K balance as a means to fund their own children’s college fund through exorbitant and outrageous legal fees.
Moreover, equal parenting time has nothing to do with equitable distribution for a reason — it’s all about money and a system that actually perpetuates family breakups.
The rubber stamping judges know this, that’s why they never inquire why the father’s parenting time isn’t divided equally as the family tea set.
Hence, the role of fatherhood is intentionally undervalued by a system that supposedly does “what’s best in the child’s interest.”
As another dad is summarily cast as a visitor, and the judges and lawyer’s gather for Saturday’s mutual tee time, I’m off to pickup the little guy that regardless of the deceitful family court system, still
considers me his daddy.
ROBERT T. MOLLEUR
Manassas
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Posted by ( blue_doggette ) on August 03, 2008 at 7:18 pm
Traveler, The cat’s dead and I have a husband. I have read Molleur’s rantings elsewhere and he has a great deal of anger towards women. I don’t think this is a good role model for children. Coincidentally, I would feel the same way if he were a man hating woman.
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Posted by ( Traveler ) on August 02, 2008 at 1:03 pm
Oh, so in a feminist’s opinion, if he makes a comment you find misogynistic, he doesn’t deserve to exercise his parental RIGHTS?
There’s a reason why militant feminists end up old, bitter, and living alone with cats. You deserve it.
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Posted by ( blue_doggette ) on July 29, 2008 at 10:15 pm
Judging from how this person behaves in other venues, I am very glad to learn that a judge gave the child’s mother sole custody. Mr. Molleur has many misogynist rants many places online and often makes crass references to women’s bodily functions.
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Posted by ( Advocator ) on July 28, 2008 at 2:36 pm
Keep the faith, Bob. I’m just back from a high school reunion and found out two of my best friends killed themselves because they could not bear the thought of losing their families. The divorce industry, made up of bottom tier graduates from third rate law schools and all their counselor lackeys are the only real beneficiaries of this system. Even the women, who end up with the bulk of the “marital estate,” usually sink to a lower standard of living once the Brazilian grows back and the SUV with the license plate, “HIZ MONY,” wears out. Give me your e-mail address at the next Help Save Manassas meeting and I’ll e-mail you my book about a global solution to the problem.
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Posted by ( Traveler ) on July 26, 2008 at 5:18 pm
Spot on, brother. Let the harpies rail - it’s still a fact.
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Posted by ( nina ) on July 22, 2008 at 11:57 am
Molleur, you appear to be so angry with women. Divorce is a painful choice that effects everyone involved. The courts may not know the particulars on every parent, but usually whoever has possesion of the child at court time is usualy the one who gains physical custody unless the other parent can show proof to have it other wise. As far as the highlights and waxes go, well as divorced women we must do something to reward ourselves for having the children with us 85% of the time. It is not easy to work, prepare meals, assist with school functions and all the things that come with raising a child. Learn to relax and things won’t be so bad. Please continue to be involved in your childs life as much as possible.
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Posted by ( jc ) on July 22, 2008 at 12:47 am
It pains me to see a child exposed to a father who is so filled with villifying anger and hatred towards all women. But it certainly helps me to understand why your wife divorced you—no sane person could live with anyone who has such a continuing negative view on everything in life. You other letters to the editor show a pattern of being angry over everything in life. Have you thought about seeking professional help?
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